Experiences with psychic readers: Personal wisdom required

So I haven’t written in a while, but that’s because there’s been little to write about. But now, I’ll update you!

After getting a bit impatient with the lack of contact between me and this guy, I kept getting the inkling that maybe I should try contacting him in a very low-key way to test the waters and such. I sent him a very short email and he responded, and we got into a nice little back-and-forth, very platonic type emails. It was actually at the encouragement of one of the psychics who I had mentioned I would stay in contact with. It was a bit out of my comfort zone, but listening to her advice and decided to go for it (hey, if he doesn’t respond, it’s his real loss anyways), actually paid off big time. So: if your psychic gives you advice, even if it makes you a LITTLE uncomfy, try to heed it! (Who says heed anymore? oh well.)

So, that’s the update. Not much, I know. But one thing I really love about this psychic advisor is she advises too in a very useful way, she’s really good at interpersonal relationships between men and women and the differences in how we think and communicate, so she’s helping me reshape the way I relate to men, and especially to this one. So try to find someone that can not only read for you, but who can assist you to help make your own better choices and analysis as well!

Alright, so I’m pretty confused right now about what I think about psychics. I guess I waver back and forth - first, I think the abilities are real because so many things that have been told to me *have* come true. But lately, not so much. So, no idea.

I really, really needed to quit calling that network though, and I did. No calls in three days, which is pretty amazing for me. I really do feel like I’m done with it, at least for now, because honestly how many times can I ask the same question, if nothing is happening?

Anyway I went to see a *real* psychic, meaning in person. Although part of it was questionable, she DID tell me that I had been talking to another psychic who was far away (and as you know, I was talking to one pretty consistently for a while) who was doing prayers for me, or some kind of candle work. I wrote Psychic 1 an email before I canceled my Keen account, and she replied by merely saying “I will pray for you no matter what” and that she loves me, so that was kind of cool/spooky. She also told me that I’d have twins (after marriage), that I had two siblings (true, and one half brother) - and that one of them was going to be in a job that involves helping people. She said my sister is very much like me and gets wrapped up and gives her heart away too fast, and that she’s a little heartbroken right now. (her boyfriend just moved to a different state, and thinks she’s cheating on him, and ended their relationship.) But she said, my sister will get over it and meet her true love in the next year.

She said that there was a spirit around me, very strongly,  someone who had died too soon or tragically. My grandfather on my mother’s side passed away three weeks ago from rapidly advancing brain cancer… :(. Apparently, he’s OK, and he’s protecting our family now. Or around us.

She then announced that the one reason I went in to the psychic’s today was because I’m trying to find out about my ex, because there is someone new who’s tempting me, and I don’t know if I should wait. Jaw-dropping moment. So true.

She said the ex did love me, but a lot of people didn’t want us to be together (his friends, then my ex-friends, then my family when they saw him upsetting me so much), and there was also a woman who somehow was involved and tempted him away from me.  He did turn away everytime his mom got him upset…

Then the psychic said that we were never supposed to break up. She said the other guy is a good man, they both are, and then asked me if my ex had been in touch recently at all. And I said no, not in a while, and she said okay well you will hear from him pretty soon. By phone, she said.

She also said that my ex’s friends had said things to him about me that weren’t true, further confusing him.

So I asked her, if he’s coming back, would it be a good relationship? And she said yes, but I’m going to have a choice to make, because he hurt me before. She said the other guy is a great guy and will always be there for me, even if I go back to my ex. That she sees I’m going to like him a lot pretty fast and may end up wanting to go that way.

Then she said that with either relationship there are obstacles, and she can help with a protection prayer for me. Of course this cost more money… but you know what, it wasn’t outrageous. and I did it. And the first night, I can tell you, I really felt waves of energy moving through me, it was such a weird / amazing feeling. I slept like an angel, though.

What else did she say during the reading… oh, she saw a doctor’s appointment coming up (I had scheduled one for today, but I didn’t tell her that beforehand) but it was nothing bad. That she saw a vacation coming up for me, possibly a day trip with friends, but it would be very stress relieving. That I haven’t been able to save any money lately, there was always something to pay for once I got the money (so true, and normally my life isn’t like that) but that would change in two weeks.

She talked about a friend with light hair and eyes that had been a friend to my face but not behind my back. She talked about my relationships behind her back, apparently, and wasn’t a true friend. Well, I had gotten screwed over by a life-long friend at the end of last year, and she has blonde hair and blue eyes.

The reader went on to say there was someone at work that I hate, who makes me not want to go into work somedays. She also knew I worked with my hands. I work with online media, so EVERYTHING I do is with my hands; I type all day long.

The psychic also said, at the beginning of the reading, do not hold anything against me that comes through the reading. I asked her afterwards, if her daughter would be psychic, too, and she smiled and said most likely. Then she said her sisters and mother were also practicing psychics in different parts of the state.

I also asked her if she was ever wrong, and she said …no! She said all of her clients were happy, and then told me a story about a woman who had come in, asking about an ex who she hadn’t heard from in three months, and the psychic saw he was going to call her on Valentine’s Day…the client didn’t want it to be Valentine’s Day, so he called the day after, I guess.

Anyway the one thing I do know for sure is I never felt so happy inside after that. I know they say psychics can be scam artists, but I felt that she was a warm, genuine caring person-I’ve been to others before who i felt cared not at all.. didn’t get that from her.

I guess now time will tell, what happens. I may sign back up on Keen in a few months of nothing happens… I want to go 60 days without it, and far I’m at 3. 57 more to go, or 25 if you believe it takes 28 days to break a habit.

Well, I’ve written up the story to date. Make of it what you will.

Today, I have only three advisors on my list of who to call - Psychic 2 is now my number 1, because Psychic 1 really hasn’t been as specific as Psychic 2. Psychic 1, had blood pressure problems ad disappeared for a while, she still sees everything working out but can’t give me any idea as to when. I guess I’ll call her if and when he does come back and we have some kind of issue.

Psychic 3 is on the list, because I did call her yesterday and she said she’s seeing it in the next week or so. Even if she’s wrong, I absolutely love her daily emails, they are so filled with positivity and hope, and who doesn’t need more positivity and hope in this life?

In the end, maybe heartbroken Psychic will turn out to be the only one who was right. Maybe my guy *is* some unfeeling, cheating, lying, manipulative, emotional vampire bastard, who will be making residence at his parent’s home until he’s into his 30’s. But I won’t know that for a while… I guess my first confirmation that what SHE said was true would be in November, when I find myself totally in love with some amazing new guy.

But my other prediction for November is that by that time, Ill be a couple with this guy- that’s from one of the psychics I won’t be talking to again, unless her reading starts to come true.

And the one from my now must-trusted psychic, Psychic 2, says that he’ll be back in just a few days from now-at least the first contact.

Thank God, though, because I am not down to only one or two psychics who I *Really* trust.

I trust them because what they have said has come to be true, or been shown to be true after the reading.

I realized I started to get into trouble when I was calling for different readers and doubting everything I was hearing. I think it’s much, much better to stick with one reader, develop a relationship, and then not worry about when something doesn’t come true right when they say it will.

I will keep psychic 3 on the list as well, because she is such a good hearted person. Even if she’s wrong, she means well. When I last spoke to her on the phone, she told me she always really asks for time, because she knows her clients want it, and that one time she was pretty much down to the minute, but that timing is very elusive and so it’s hard.

I know it’s tempting to call more and more psychics, when they all have such rave reviews on their own pages - but remember … it’s marketing. Of course they are going to put quotes from customers who had some amazing thing come true. Of course they are going to look for the person who said “you were the ONLY one that was right!”

And as far as feedback, most of it is left the same day the reading is given-what does that say about accuracy? Not a ton.

There’s one guy who I was tempted to call after reading his page this morning/late last night. He claims all of those things-he says he has a tendency to go against top readers and then be the only one who was right. Wow! Maybe *i* should call him, I thought. So I clicked through his feedback and found several responses that says he was so negative, and even if it’s a bad “outcome” or not favorable, you can deliver the news with finesse, which he doesn’t. And I read a few different feedbacks that said he was *Way* off the mark, maybe even picking up on someone else entirely. And then I read another one that said he was dead wrong in his prediction from a year ago…

Yeah. I had enough trauma from one negative reader. At this point, I don’t need another person chirping in my ear about how my ex is the incarnation of Satan. Life will show me that eventually anyway, if it’s true. And if it’s not, and these other readers are right in that he does come back.. well, great.

After crying my eyes out, I couldn’t sit with what she said. No. It had to be wrong. HAD to be.

I called Psychic 2 again… she had given me a reading the month before that said he was coming back, that he wanted to reconcile, that he would be worthwhile this time, but then she suggested I may want to find someone in my own geographic area. She does mix her own opinion in with things, and usually it’s helpful.

Anyways, I called her because she was online, so upset, she tried to read on my guy for me again but because she’s an empath she couldn’t get through my emotions and only got the basics, and then gave me a bunch of minutes to call her back with but said she would stay on the phone with me until I calmed down.

We then did a reading on the woman who did my bad reading-and Psychic 2 told me she was getting that this woman was heartbroken herself, overworked, weary, tired. That maybe she had picked up on my guy’s bad behavior when he HAD been actingly badly, but not who he was now.

I did kind of have a notion that from her email she was determined with what she was going to tell me, but I ignored that.

This again is why I say, personal wisdom required.

I did my “calm” reading with Psychic 2, and things came up as they had before. He wants to reconcile, and he’ll be worthwhile, but I need to set boundaries and really think about my role in relationships-that was my spiritual lesson. That’s why all of this happened. Ok, good. Peace again. I don’t care if it IS what I wanted to hear- she HAS been right, at least to what I’ve been able to find out (no idea about the girl he was supposedly seeing), and she did tell me when he was being a jerk.

A few days later, I emailed the reader who had given me the negative reading asking for the books she wanted me to read. She ended up replying and saying she’s been in the middle of a move, doing a yardsale and splitting with a long time partner - *Exactly as Psychic 2 described.*

Woah. Now I know who to trust.

I did call one other psychic. This woman I had found quite randomly, because she wrote an article on why timing doesn’t always come through in a reading, or why it can take a bit longer, and it was basically saying that if you aren’t growing on your own path, the spirit world stops.

I emailed her to thank her. She wrote back saying when she read my email she wanted to cry for me because she knew exactly what I had been told by other psychics, and that I knew the truth in my heart. (I had said, that at one point I wanted them to just tell me it was over.) I’m guessing she went off of that.

I ended up scheduling a reading with her-one of the more expensive I’ve ever done, and I still owe her money on, because I only booked 15 minutes.

She told me, when we started talking, that he was a scumbag. That in his mind, our relationship was absolutely over, that he has no intention of ever talking to me again (not even to say hello, and sorry things ended like they did), that he had cheated on me and I knew it.

No, that’s not true-he had flirted with other girls here and there, and at one point asked a girl to hang out, actually twice, but he confessed both times to me and told me nothing came of it. I believed him at the time, and just becuase this psychic said he did cheat on me, doesn’t mean I believe him any less now.

He DID cheat a couple times on his ex-girlfriend, but never on me, to my knowledge.

Then she said that he was a narcissist, that he would never love anybody but himself, suddenly asked me if he lives with his parents (he does), said it would be at least 9 years before he moved out and actually had a real relationship… if it was 9 years, he’d be in his 30’s. Even if he is the cruel, absent-hearted a-hole she made him out to be, I sincerely don’t want that for him. She said he never loved anybody but himself. That he only used me because I cared about his problems, kind of like a shoulder to cry on.

She said she was getting the number 9 - asked if it had been 9 weeks since I’d heard from him, which wasn’t true. But I think it was around the last time I saw him. Then she said our relationship had been “ending” for 6 months before it was over. Let’s see, Nov, Dec, Jan, Feb, March, Apr - well, I guess that’s kind of on.

But then she said there was an older man with dark hair and facial hair, maybe a goatee, who i’d known for a month who is really interested in me and is waiting for me to get sorted out before he makes his move. Nobody in my life fits that description.

She also said I’d be moving (I am) and making a lot of new friends where I was moving to, and asked if it was an apartment complex. It’s not. Then she said I’d find a new job, and in November I’d finally meet a great guy and everything would come together for me, and I’d be a completely different person.

She said my guy would date a girl who would catch on to him right away and not fall for it, that he’d be heartbroken cause he didn’t get a chance to break her heart first, then she changed her story and said it was already happening, then she said he’d lose his job and things would go really downhill for him in the coming months. She did say he was terrible with money, which is true.

The things she said about him messed with my head pretty badly. I drove all the way to my parents house, bawling my eyes out the whole time, having a mental breakdown on the phone with a friend.

I had totally believed this one woman. Because if she was true, then I was a horribly bad judge of character, and nothing I knew about him was right, and basically I never mattered to him at all. And for someone who was the love of my life at one point, to hear that is more heartbreaking than ANYTHING this guy ever said or did to me himself.

On my new account, I think I called one woman a second time for a follow up. And then I called ONE new person.

Her byline said “test me! just a name!” so I did. She said he was moving very slowly with our relationship, she saw him sitting around a lot, really thinking about what he wants to do about us, scared of the seriousness of it, and wondering if was ready, but he does want to be with me. She said to give him space every now and then to stop him forcing space with the breakups he does, and she said (haha) that she saw him sitting around in blue mesh shorts a lot. Really enjoying just doing his own thing, but that eventually he’d get tired of it, and yes it’d be a relationship. She also saw a computer, which she interpreted to mean that the next time I hear from him it’ll be via computer. And that when it’s back together it’ll be just like when we first met. And that I’d hear from him at the very latest by the end of the month. Well, I still have a full month to wait-haha-so no idea on her accuracy.